You Have Totally Got This

A few weeks ago, before I went on a short break (which was lovely), I left you with some reflection questions. To recap, they were:

• Would you like your life to be different than it is now and if so, how?
• Where would you like to see yourself in 5-10 years (or maybe reframe that to one year)
• Do you see an open path to your goal(s) or are there obstacles and if so, list them out so you can see them clearly on the page
• What’s your definition of abundance? Do you see yourself living in abundance now and in the future? If not, why not?

How did reflecting on these questions go for you? If you haven’t spent time with them, it’s never too late.The question I’d like to focus on is “Do you see an open path to your goal(s) or are there obstacles?”

I know for myself, there have been times when I’ve seen my future-self doing something that I feel really passionate about, but it doesn’t seem possible. I only see obstacles such as I’d have to go back to school to learn more, can I afford it, who am I to think so big?

If you can think it, you can do it.

The truth is, the fact that the thought came into your mind is meaningful. Not everyone, and more likely no one, ever had that exact same thought. It came to you.

Obstacles are our ego protecting us. The ego, which is a human construct meaning when you die it dies too, doesn’t like leaps of faith. It likes the tried-and-true method of what is known, even if that means staying stuck. Admittedly, the ego is great for some things, like keeping you from walking into a street of moving traffic or reminding you to keep an appointment. However, there are many things it’s not great at, like trying something new or taking a risk.

Since the ego wants to protect you, and itself, one way to work with it is to give it a job to do.  It doesn’t have to be fancy. For instance, when I decided to start writing this newsletter on a weekly basis instead of monthly, I had a little anxiety (ego) kick in. I wondered if I could do it (who am I to think I know enough?). I wondered if anyone would be interested (who am I to think people would care what I have to say?). I wondered if I would be consistent (who am I to think I can keep up that pace?). Can you see how my ego would be happier if I didn’t do the newsletter at all? By giving it the job of being on the lookout for things to write about, it’s been quite busy and has, for the most part, left me alone so I can be open to spirit and allow thoughts and words to flow.

What kinds of obstacles did you come up with? Can you see how the ego might be behind them? When you start hearing the words “but, but, you’ve always done it this way…” that’s your sign. Give the ego a job and move on to living life on your terms. You have totally got this!


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