Do You Want That Tape On Replay?

I’ve been thinking about being stuck. Stuck as it applies to not wanting to change. Sometimes, even when we don’t like what we’re doing or how we’re behaving, thinking about stepping into a new way of being can be unsettling because we can feel like we’re stepping into the unknown.

Patterns of behavior are established for a reason, but what if the reason no longer exists? What if the pattern has become toxic in its old age?

What I find interesting is how we can learn about ourselves and the patterns we’re holding onto through our relationships. We learn about our triggers, we learn what we like, what we don’t like, what our needs are.

Relationships help us grow. But what happens if we don’t allow them to? For instance, what if you’re in a relationship that leaves you talking over and over to yourself or someone else about how much that person annoys you, how they don’t get you, or how they seem to hold a superior attitude?

Can you flip the script? Do you annoy you? Do you even understand yourself? Do you hold a me versus them attitude? Your relationship is a demonstration of where your growth lies.

Truly there are relationships that simply don’t work, where there’s nothing to be gained for either person. But I’d venture to say that for the most part, a relationship is established when the soul sees an opportunity for growth, when the soul says ‘hey, this person can be a great trigger and create an opportunity to see what’s wanting to be awakened!’

Without these triggers, we’d be A+ sleep walkers living in our comfort zone of discomfort. But that’s not the point. We want to grow. Our soul wants us to have the experience of waking up and bringing some of our beliefs and patterns of behavior into our conscious awareness.

There’s no better way than to pair you up with someone who triggers you.
But then what?

How do we move beyond being annoyed?

We have to take the time to go within and see what’s being triggered. This excavation for me tends to be inner child work.

The inner child has held onto everything. Every word, every emotion, every experience - especially in your early years when you weren’t able to process words and emotions. It’s all stored in your subconscious. These little morsels, that you’re not even aware of but are driving your thoughts and actions, act out in your relationships so you can wake up to them.

One thing I’ve come to learn with inner child work is most of the time the inner child is really tired. It doesn’t want all these tapes running on replay. It wants you to adult-up and do something about them.

Letting go of being stuck, as uncomfortable as it may seem, learning about and releasing old patterns will change you. You will be stepping into the unknown. But it’s an unknown that will hold you in love.

You’ll find there’s a beautiful world waiting for you that is beyond even your wildest imagination.