I’m taking a class with Isabelle Benerous called 'Elevate Your Life'. When we were exploring our beliefs recently, she asked participants to share some limiting beliefs. One participant wrote, “I’m not good enough.”
How many of us believe we’re not good enough. Too many I’m sure.
I loved Isabelle’s response. She said to the woman, “Not good enough when?” Isabelle went on to say that we’re all good enough at something. We’re good enough at brushing our teeth or driving our car for example.
Of course we’re good enough. When we say we’re not, it often feels all encompassing as though we’re saying, “I’m not good enough at this one thing, therefore I’m a loser at all things.” But no, that’s not true as well as not being possible.
I might have the feeling of not being good enough when I forget my grocery list. Okay, but does that have to leave me feeling incompetent? No, but because I’m kicking myself for leaving the list, which I meticulously prepared, on the counter and now I have to try to remember what I needed, I'm feeling overwhelmed.
Does that make me not good enough as a person? No and there are steps I can take that may not be ideal, but they’ll be enough to remedy the situation. Maybe I have to make two trips, I can have what I forget delivered, or I can ask my husband to go for me. :)
When you hear yourself saying or feeling you’re not good enough, sit down and write out exactly what you’re feeling not good enough about. Let it all out. Be specific. Is what you're feeling even true? Why is it important to you to be good at this? Is something else feeding into it? Write about it. Thinking about it is abstract and the mind can wander back into self-loathing in a never ending loop. Writing allows your subconscious mind to express itself.
If you can’t wrap your head around getting specific about where you’re feeling not good enough, write out what you are good enough at and use that to propel you.
Remember, not being good enough at one thing does not mean a life sentence of not being good enough as a person. You are enough no matter what you may be telling yourself.
You are beautiful, you are strong, and yes – you are enough. Believe it.