We've all heard the adage, "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade." What does that mean exactly? And perhaps more importantly is HOW do we do that?
A lemon eaten by itself is sour and it makes us pucker. When it's cooked or used as an ingredient in a recipe, it's a wonderful flavor enhancer.
This reminds me of how the Buddhists think of the muck that the lotus grows in. Without the muck, there would be no lotus; the lotus grows not in spite of but because of the muck.
Without life's lemons, there would be no lemonade.
In life we need the lemons and the muck. They are what help us grow and evolve.
How do we make lemonade when we're given lemons? I would offer that it can be a process and often we don't see how the lemons have served us until we've been drinking the lemonade for a while. Other times the lemonade completely alludes us. We sit with the lemons, tasting only the sour and not knowing how to make lemonade. So here are some thoughts.
Do your lemons have a theme? Is there a common thread that ties them together? Perhaps they sit in a bunch or come in a string of events. Look at each situation and parse out the commonalities, these are your teachers. Name your lemons. Name them and claim them. What are they revealing? From there you can decide how you wish to use them.
Notice that lemonade doesn't discard the lemon, it uses the lemon as an enhancer, a tool of transformation.
I truly believe that personal growth comes when we can see the lemons (life's challenges) and learn how to use them to make lemonade (turn them into opportunities). The next time life hands you lemons, perhaps you will be reminded that the lemonade is made not in spite of but because of the lemons.
In love and light,
When you woke up this morning, what were some of your first thoughts? Even before you opened your eyes, what thoughts were running through your mind? I'll give you a minute to think about it...
Many of us will go immediately to the "I should" list, the "I don't want to, but..." list, the "I can't believe I have to" list, and so on.
Did you know that these are the thoughts that shape your day? Think of it like a menu. Your morning thoughts are the order you place with the universe on how you'd like to see your day shape up.
So now think about how your day has gone. When you think back to what you placed an order for, has your day gone accordingly? Have the two linked up?
Our first thoughts of the day are very powerful.
As you go off to sleep tonight, set the intention that when you wake up in the morning you're going to stop yourself before the mindless dribble starts floating in. And then, when you wake up, see if you can think about the day from a more positive perspective. What do you GET to do today? You GET to eat a nice breakfast, you GET to drive to a job that you love and that pays your bills (and your car payments), you GET to spend time with family and friends.
Most importantly perhaps, you get to make choices. You're not being a Pollyanna to desire ease and grace in your life. It's silly not to want these things.
If you choose to stay with the "I don't want to's" and the "I should's", then ask yourself what are they showing you? Clearly there's a reason you're holding on to them, so dig in and find out what it is. Don't be shy, it's your life.
In the meantime, if you decide to order up a nutritious day filled with love and gratitude, notice how it plays out both during the day and as the weeks and months pass. It's a small step with big benefits. Let us know how you do by clicking on the button below.
In love and light,
Our world is changing and we need to steer the ship in the direction that will best serve us.
This is a comment I wrote on a friend's Facebook page recently. She had posted that basically she was going to start focusing on the positive things that people are doing to make this world a better place. I applaud that. Actually, I give it a standing ovation.
We've all heard that our thoughts, words, actions, and intentions create our reality. I believe this with every beat of my heart. I believe that we tell the universe what we want more of by where we place our focus. And because we live in a loving universe that always gives us what we ask for, if we ask for pain we get pain; if we ask for joy, we get joy.
I think what can be challenging to understand however, is how we ask for these. Saying to yourself, "I want more joy" isn't how it works exactly. And who would intentionally ask to suffer? The way I see it is this: when you look at yourself in the mirror do you see a beautiful human being or do you see imperfections that make you cringe? When you see your child's toys strewn around the room do you see a mess or do you see a child who has been playing, lost in imagination? When you pay your bills each month do you see your checkbook being depleted or do you feel grateful for all the food that you were able to purchase and the heat for your home?
You can play at being the victim or you can empower yourself, either way you're setting yourself up for what you want to create more of: more dissatisfaction and anger, or more joy and fulfillment.
We are, in fact, very powerful creators and because of that we steer our own ship. Our world is changing. How do you want it to go? You are not powerless. By being a witness to your own thoughts, words, actions, and intentions - personally and globally - you can create a life and a world that is a joy to live in. And that, my friends, is heaven on earth!
In love and light,