May has been a full month for me. I feel as though I have hardly had time to sit and catch my breath.
I'm not the type of person who enjoys staying busy for extended periods of time, which is probably why I've chosen a career that allows me to set my own schedule and plan plenty of downtime.
How about you? Are you someone who tends to stay busy? Do you enjoy it?
I used to think taking downtime was being lazy and staying busy was what I was supposed to do. But I don't feel that way anymore. I find if I stay too busy, I get frazzled and quite frankly, when that happens, nobody wins. Even the cats suffer.
So now I try to schedule downtime; time to read, journal, work with my SoulCollage(R) cards, garden, or just sit and pat the cats. It's important. Don't think for a moment, however, that those voices of perfection in my head don't let me know that I'm wasting valuable time. They are very present. However, I've determined that they'll just have to get used to the idea. I simply tell them it's okay, there's enough time to get everything done that needs to get done. They quiet down because they know it's the truth.
Sometimes being busy is fun and has its rewards, but it can also be a burden we place on ourselves. If you feel you don't find time to just be, invite yourself to a sit-down where you can explore the part of you that feels the need to constantly do. Does it argue with you? Does it feel threatened as though you're about to abandon it? Let this part of you know that you love it and that perhaps it too needs some downtime.
We don't need to DO all the time, but we do need to BE. If you're someone who is busy and doesn't enjoy it, can you shift gears?
I'd love to hear from you about this topic. How do you manage your time? What are your days like and do you feel the need to be constantly doing things or are you able to relax and take life as it comes? Have you always been this way?
We're all different, there is no right or wrong - please share our experience.
In love and light,
Last month I shared about a book that I enjoyed called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. In that book the author, Marie Kondo says,"Take each item in your hand and ask: 'Does this spark joy?'"
All month I've been thinking about this quote and it has moved me greatly. "Take each item in your hand and ask: 'Does this spark joy?'" There are so many ways we can apply this question. And in part, that is what her book is about. It's not just about tidying up our closet or a room. It's about tidying up our lives by asking the question: "Does this spark joy?"
After reading the book, I found myself asking this question when I was in a room full of people, or cooking dinner, or attending a class or a meeting. "Does this food/these people/this event spark joy?" If it didn't or doesn't, then why am I doing it? It's such a great question.
Are you inviting joy into your life not just with objects, but people, food, or circumstances? Or are you inviting sadness, misery, and guilt? And if you are, then ask yourself "where will I find joy?" and head over to that party.
Joy is at the top of the food chain so to speak and fear is at the bottom with every emotion and state of being existing in between. In order to get to joy, the movement has to start somewhere.
For me, the simple yet profound question "Does this spark joy?" is where I began. If it doesn't spark joy, then it's holding me back from that place I choose to live from. Just having that awareness can change everything.
Can you allow yourself to ask the question?
In love and light,
Is it time to undergo some spring decluttering? When I have a lot of random thoughts going through my head – a lot of clutter, I find decluttering my environment helpful. Why? I think because of its symbolic nature. When I declutter my environment, I create a nice, tidy, clean space and that feels good. So it would follow that if I set the stage for decluttering my environment, I’m also establishing a mindset that will instruct my brain to let go of its clutter and allow for new, fresh thoughts.
There are a number of ways to work within your environment. One way is to go through your cupboards and look at what has taken up residence over the winter months. Winter is a time to get cozy, eat hearty meals, and hibernate. But now that spring is here, we can lighten up those meals and perhaps shed some of the heavier items we’ve been holding onto. Similar really to clearing out your wardrobe of heavy winter sweaters and replacing them with brighter, lighter items.
Another way to do some decluttering is to go through emails and delete those that you’re no longer interested in. When was the last time you cleaned out your spam folder? Leaving those unattended is adding clutter and an energy that is well, spammy. Toss them out!
If you’re someone who has a cluttered car, clean it out and give it a good vacuum. If you have your life in your car, what’s that telling you? Is that really where you want to live? Polish off your effort with a nice spin through the car wash.
Each of these things, though they might seem mundane, is actually a way to get your brain into the swing of creating space. As you start to unclutter your environment, you can start to open to possibilities in your thinking that are expansive, new, and fresh. If you try it, I hope you will share your experience.
In love and light,